Hi I was not aware that holding the shift key when you hit tilde opened up the console. It seems this is what one has to do in COD2 and COD4. So I was doing everything correctly, I just was not able to see the console for lacking that tidbit. I am now streaming with the number one anti cheat group (PBBans) and the number two group (PsB) with my COD4 server. All is well, thank you for all you do!
As far as setting the rconpassword, if it will help others, what I did was added the line " +rcon login xxxxxxx +connect xxx.xxx.xxx.xxx" the the Target via shortcut's properties.
In COD1.5 and COD UO one would enter /rconpassword xxxxxx in the console window by opening with the tilde key
In COD2 and COD4 one would enter /rcon login xxxxxx in the console window by opening with shift and tilde